Will I be the right therapist for you?
Making a decision to refer yourself for psychotherapy or counselling can be a daunting task. Yet paradoxically, picking up the phone to call a therapist can also be accompanied by a sense of relief. When taking an important step such as this, you are deciding to make a significant investment in yourself where your time, energy and money are concerned. Finding a good ‘goodness of fit’ is therefore vital. In order that you can decide whether I would be the best therapist for you, it might help if I provide some answers to some frequently asked questions.
Although I relinquished my HIPC-UKCP registration in July 2024, I continue to adhere to the HIPC-UKCP’s codes of ethics and professional practice.
My clinical work is supervised routinely by a highly qualified and experienced clinical supervisor.
I integrate aspects of the following theories:
- Attachment
- Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT)
- Gestalt
- Human Development
- Infant-Observation
- Memory
- Psychoanalytic Self-Psychology
- Transactional Analysis
Most importantly I echo the view expressed by psychotherapy researchers Bergin and Lambert (1978) who propose that whatever theoretical approach a therapist uses the most important factor in determining a successful outcome in psychotherapy and counselling is the therapeutic relationship itself; this being the primary vehicle for revealing how early experiences underlie current problems.
The therapeutic relationship can be used to offer you a new chance at soothing past insecurities and fears, as well as becoming a safe context in which you have opportunities to experiment with new ways of relating.
The therapy relationship flourishes wherever you and I maintain a strong personal commitment to the therapy effort, when we communicate clearly with one another, and when I show genuine concern for your wellbeing. I believe that a trusting and supportive relationship between you and me is critical to a successful outcome.
If you decide to refer yourself to me for psychotherapy or counselling you will find me willing to provide you with a healing environment in which you encounter a relationship that provides non-judgemental acceptance, unconditional positive regard, emotional warmth, empathic understanding, gentleness, uncompromising respect, resilience and where appropriate, a good sense of humour.
In my relationship with you I will encourage self-knowledge, personal responsibility, self-determination and autonomy. I will also facilitate the recovery of three vital capacities; awareness, spontaneity and intimacy. I will be genuine, open and honest with you and with your agreement, I will share with you whatever feelings might be stirred in me as we work together.
The essence of a good therapeutic relationship reveals itself wherever you and I work together cooperatively in ways that enable you to achieve the goals that you will set for yourself at the beginning of your therapeutic journey with me.